Are you ready to be heard?
IT’S TIME TO STOP BELIEVING THE LIES OF YOUR INNER VOICE, AND START EMBRACING – AND LOVING – WHO YOU ARE.
We have to find that balance. To trust who we are, our capability and our talent, so that we can rediscover our passion and enthusiasm. When we do that, it’s a game changer.
And how do I know? Because I’ve been there, both personally and professionally.
I know that if I can come through it to stop feeling scared and worrying about underachieving, or overthinking every decision I make, then you can too. And I want to help you find that breakthrough to escape the prison of self-doubt, or the pain of adversity.
Helping incredible ladies just like you unleash their own special and individual qualities – their power – to create the life they’ve always wanted, and deserve, is the thing I love the most about my job.
So who am I?
Hey, I’m Nicky, and I’m a coach, a mum, and a Lioness. I only realised that last part recently, after a long road of discovery, but the moment I did, everything changed. And let me tell you, it was worth the wait!
To understand why, I need to take you back to the start. I always struggled to fit in. I was bullied at school, and didn’t really have a tribe. I just felt different. I wasn’t academically brilliant, but I went to college, and again I didn’t really find my place. So I quit, and found myself in a job with the ambulance service.
It wasn’t the career path I’d imagined I’d follow, but deep down I knew I loved helping people, so I went for it. Almost 25 years and many qualifications later, including Mental Health First Aid, Psychology, Counselling and Trauma Risk Management, I’m still there, and using my skills, empathy and intuition to help people improve their lives.
It hasn't been easy though
I’ve faced challenges, and knocks, both personally and professionally along the way, that left me feeling broken, alone, and like a failure. For example, early on in my career, after progressing quickly through the ranks, I went for a job as a manager and was told this…
“Nicky, when you walk into a room, nobody notices. You’re just not a manager.”
Brutal, right? That conversation didn’t last longer than a minute, and it’s safe to say I didn’t get the job. Before the process I felt ready to step up, capable and trusted. and afterwards I was left feeling hopeless. I couldn’t change me, so as far as I was concerned, that was it for me. Done.
So I focussed on my family and had my two amazing children, then I went back to work. Soon after, the role was advertised again. A lot had changed, so I went for it, and you know what? I got it. Boom! It was exactly what I wanted. What I knew I could do. But just a few weeks in, my separation and divorce began. I’d already experienced post-natal depression, and I suddenly found myself back in that dark place. Don’t get me wrong, I know no divorce is gonna’ be good – that’s the nature of the beast I guess – but it was bad. I hit rock bottom.
I found direction
I had counselling, and spoke to people, which helped massively. I was able to pick myself up a fair few times, only for something else to happen, which sent me spiralling down again. Then I tried coaching, and that was a huge turning point for me. I stopped believing that I was, in my own mind, quite simply, an awful person, who just wasn’t ‘good enough’; definitely not “normal”; and that I was without doubt, unworthy of any kind of happiness.
I started to feel free, rather than trapped. I started to see direction and opportunity as I fought with everything I had left in me, to try and be a good mum for my two amazing children. Rather than just trudging on in the darkness, I finally felt heard. And most importantly, I realised I wasn’t abnormal at all.
I stopped surviving and started thriving
After that moment, everything happened quickly. I started not just living, but loving my life again. I accepted that maybe I’m not everyone’s cuppa’ tea. And yes, I am unique. But that’s great. That’s a positive!
Most importantly, I knew that having come through some of the darkest, most overwhelming moments, I felt, and still feel to this day, that I’m stronger, braver, and feel more empowered and capable than I ever have before.
My journey has continued on, and I’ve learned more and more about how coercive control within domestic violence relationships deepened my feelings of low self-worth. But my journey has led me here, to a place where I like and value myself. I’m a survivor, the Lioness inside me is wide awake, and I know I’m free to live my life exactly as I choose. As the best version of me.